Do You Know How You Will Manage?
How are you going to handle things when there is too much to handle?
How will you manage ?
- Your boss calls and you are at the doctors with Dad?
- You find mom fell days ago, is hurt, but hasn’t told anyone?
- The hospital calls and says mom must be discharged but can’t go home alone?
- You sibling flies in from out of town, fires caregivers, and leaves?
- You are going from crisis to crisis
How are you going to talk with others about what is happening?
- Mom or Dad, who don’t want to talk about it
- Siblings, who have very different concerns
- Relatives, who only want to see their contribution acknowledged
- The rest of the world, that just doesn’t get it
What do you do when Mom refuses to participate or be reasonable?
- She won’t talk about it
- She accuses/blames you
- She doesn’t want to take her meds
- She won’t see the doctor or allow caregivers
- She berates your father (and others) to the brink of abuse
Do you know when and how to be involved ?
- Doctors
- Lawyers
- Accountants
- Financial Planners
- Conservators
- Therapists
- Caregivers
- Assisted Living Facilities
- Skilled nursing Facilities
- Hospice
- …and Coaches
Are you ready for the cognitive decline of Alzheimer’s?
- What can you do when they make no sense?
- What happens when he/she gets belligerent with you or caregivers?
- When do you know to move them to a professional care setting?
- How do you manage when the disease goes on for years?
How are you going to have those difficult conversations?
- Giving up driving the car
- Moving out of their house
- Getting professional care
- Money and property
- Their last wishes and legacy
- Life and it’s inevitable endings